Archive for November 19th, 2009

Taking Action

Lately, I’ve fallen into an old (and slightly destructive) habit at work.  I over-analyze relationships with my coworkers and bring home mental baggage to think about into the wee hours.

I need to take a little advice from Emerson:

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Unfortunately, my over-analyzing is based upon very real, very present conflict.  This conflict has been going on for a few weeks.  However, I’m not the root cause: it involves me in that I’m caught in the middle between two other parties and it stems from a lack of consistency. 

Have I mentioned that I loathe inconsistency?

This conflict is also based 90% on office politics.

I’m also very anti political posturing.

But, I love my coworkers.  And I like my job pretty well, too.  And so, it was time to do something.

So…I met with my supervisor and discussed the situation with her.  And met with another co-worker who was involved to clear the air.

And now, while the political aspect is never going to go away, and the inconsistency has yet to be resolved, the tension among personnel has been almost completely eliminated.  Time will tell if this is a long-term solution, but I am much happier for the time being. 

I have to admit, I’m sort of proud of myself for making the first move to take action, braving that old foe–conflict, and moving forward instead of continuing to let the situation fester.

Quote to live by:

From the backstabbing co-worker to the meddling sister-in-law, you are in charge of how you react to the people and events in your life. You can either give negativity power over your life or you can choose happiness instead. Take control and choose to focus on what is important in your life. Those who cannot live fully often become destroyers of life.”

~Anais Nin

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